Part Three: Group Dynamics

1. In order for our group discussions to be successful we establish three conversation rules:

A.) Be Respectful

B.) What is Said in Group Stays in Group

C.) Listen Well

Which of these do you find helpful and why?

2. Can you think of a time that you weren’t being heard in a conversation? How did that make you feel?

3. How could the activity of this group be different?

4. There is a difference between listening to understand and simply being quiet while you wait for an opportunity to make a point. How might we benefit from listening to understand even if we don’t agree?

5. Part of group life is earning the right to speak into each other’s lives. What would a person need to demonstrate in order to earn this with you?

6. How does the idea of group confidentiality make you feel?

Preparing to read:

Tonight we’re going to read from the book of Philippians. Written by the Apostle Paul to a church he founded in Philippi around 53 AD. That’s about 20 years after the death and resurrection of Jesus. Philippians is a deeply personal book. Paul writes it to encourage his friends as well as thank them for a gift they gave him. The section we’re going to read tonight comes within the context of living life with the same attitude Jesus had.

Read: Philippians 2:1-11

7. In verse 3 Paul says that in humility we should consider others better (or more significant) than ourselves. How might this attitude be helpful for us in a group discussion setting? What could it do for how we listen and how we speak?

8. Considering others more significant than ourselves doesn’t mean that we take a low view of ourselves or put ourselves down. It means that we place other people before us. Who have you seen practice this well in life? What did they do?

9. It is generally believed that in verses 5-11 Paul isn’t writing his own ideas but quoting a well known song that was circulated in the early church. The early believers seemed to marvel at Jesus, who had every right to be esteemed and worshiped, emptying Himself and choosing to serve people instead.

With that in mind, what are some practical ways that our group can demonstrate the same humility and service when we meet?

10. Had you ever considered what Jesus gave up to come to die for us? What do you think of that idea?

Bottom Line:

In order for our group conversations to flourish we must practice three rules: 1. Be Respectful, 2. Listen Well, 3. What is Said in Group Stays in Group. With these three safeguards in place we can establish an environment where members are built up and deep conversations can take place.

Next week everyone will begin sharing their stories. The goal is to give a 5 to 10 minute snapshot of your life that better lets the group know who you are. For help in preparing your story visit